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Self esteem can be a confusing thing for many people, and in my experience it is usually women and girls who have the most problems with it so ladies, this article is for you!

Whilst self esteem activities for girls may conjure up ideas of getting makeovers and new hair-do's I'm going to try and steer away from that sort of thing as I've found that this is not really self esteem building, but a very shallow way that gives you fake confidence and is no real help in the end. I'm not against dressing up and looking good (c'mon, every girl loves to look good) but it cannot be your source of confidence and self esteem in life as it is too variable, inconsistent and circumstantial.

Self Esteem Activities For Girls - 3 Self Esteem Boosting Ideas

1) Follow the 3 Steps to happiness - These three steps if followed offer the very basic keys to simple happiness, and can be a good boost to self esteem. These include get regular physical exercise, mental exercise - aka always be learning and challenging your mind, and of course frequent social interactions. Make sure you get each of these 3 thing as often as you can as they alone can lead to a very simple quality of happiness and confidence. Think of people in less developed countries who are poor in a material sense, but can still lead a much happier life than most Westerners.

2) Resist Social Pressure - A very female specific issue in regards to self esteem is the massive massive social pressure that is placed on us in our western environment. If you look at tv, the media, movies, advertisements, magazines, there is a very congruent pattern that is telling us that we must have a small bum and firm breasts or else we are unattractive. This whole social misconception is so fundamentally flawed that I could write a whole book on it!

The bottom line and the best advice I can give you about it is that know that true confidence and self esteem does not come from being eye candy, this is a false sense of self image and confidence which will disappear once a woman reaches a certain age. The trick is not to get swept up in this whole "looks is everything" argument. Make sure you look after yourself and feature whatever you cannot fix(aka - if you have crooked teeth, that doesn't mean they can't be clean) as it is normal for everyone to want to look presentable, this is fine.

Something that is a lot more attractive than looks however is a confident attitude. I have countless male friends who have confided in me that a womans attitude can be VERY addictive and override the fact she may not be a barbie doll look-a-like. A woman with an attractive, positive attitude will in the end receive much more attention than a model with low self esteem and the personality of a tree. This is great because a personality you can develop no matter who you are. A final mindset I'll leave you with is "if something can be done I have just as great a chance as anyone else" is a very humble way to go about life.

3) Surround yourself with supportive people - A big step to developing self confidence and any self improvement in life is to surround yourself in a supportive environment, filled with people who will be always be willing to encourage you. This may be your family, friends, co-workers, etc. Find people who love you for you and will be there to help you up whenever you are down. Confidence and self esteem cannot grow from an unreceptive environment, so make sure yours is supportive. If they have the opposite affect, get out of there or limit your time spend there as overtime it will have a negative affect on your self confidence, and be a cause of your low self esteem symptoms.

I hope these self esteem activities for girls have been helpful to you.

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